Meet Amber Rae: Author, artist, and speaker “who encourages self-discovery and personal growth.”
Amber is the best selling author of Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential , published by McMillan. She is also a motivational speaker, focusing on creativity, personal growth, and emotional wellbeing.
On her vibrate Instagram page you can find many examples of her positive life-philosophy, all aesthetically drawn and pleasantly presented. These include Hand-on tips on how to face your fears, how to be in touch with your feelings, how to use language constructively, and more!
“I’ve always been curious about the human condition,” writes Rae on her website . “asking questions like: What holds us back? Makes us tick? How do we live our true north? I picked up my first psychology book when I was 11, and I’ve been exploring what it means to be human ever since.”
Regarding how she ended up in New York, promoting positivity and self-awareness, she writes: “I wanted more from life, so I moved to Silicon Valley to join the tech gold rush. While there, I started a blog to document my journey, be real about the ups & downs, and ponder life’s big questions.”
“After many failed attempts at trying to fit my life into a conventional box, I left tech, sold my belongings, and followed an intuitive call to New York in 2010.”
What can we say, Silicon Valley may have lost an innovator, but we all gained a guru and the chance to better understand ourselves!
Check more of Amber Rae’s Instagram goodies below:
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Are you behaving like a victim or a victor? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The victim blames others and seeks rescuing or revenge. They buy into the lie that they’re powerless to change their circumstances. They look for evidence that the world is against them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The victor, on the other hand, owns their part, deals and heals from the situation, and moves forward. The victor accepts what is and liberates themselves from the past to create a new future. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To move from victim to victor, we can witness and shift our thoughts, feelings, language, and actions. A few examples of how we can do this are above 👆🏼💕✨ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ UPDATED: Several of you have commented or written to me about situations when painful things happen, like rape, or a car accident, or an abusive parent. Thank you for bringing this important conversation to my attention. In these situations, I think about the difference between fault and responsibility. It’s not our fault if our father is abusive and an alcoholic, for example. It’s not our fault if we were raped. It’s not our fault if we get in a car accident and lose a limb. It’s not our fault if a hurricane takes our home. It is our responsibility, however, to face those traumas, heal from the pain, and continue to create a life. I know how difficult this can be. Taking responsibility doesn't mean we let someone who wronged us off the hook. It doesn’t mean we say that what happened is okay. It means that we choose to take our power back because our joy is more important than our suffering. 🙏🏼
A post shared by Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) on Jul 25, 2019 at 9:26am PDT
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I view fear as a compass, calling us to step up and step forward. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When I feel afraid, I thank it for showing up and trying to protect me from danger, and I ask: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. What message does my fear have for me? 2. What action is it calling me to take that’s grounded in love and self-worth? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The fears listed here are ones I once struggled with mightily—and sometimes still do—and ones I’ve had a lot of messages about lately. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The fear of “doing the wrong thing” or worrying, “Am I doing this right?” is remedied through devotion to daily action, attention on the process (rather than the end goal), and allowing exploration and experimentation until the feeling of “Oh! This! This feels right!” emerges. If you’re not there yet, keep going. Fear nudges us to deepen our commitment to trust. To pray to whatever power we believe in. I like to whisper, “I am being guided. I am noticing what excites and energizes me.” Soon enough, I *am* noticing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The fear that “my voice doesn’t matter” translates into “put your voice out there.” This fear always reminds me that my voice is part of my medicine, and I’m being called to step out of hiding and into the light. The more I embrace what wants to flow through me and allow that message whatever outlet it needs, the more my fear resolves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The fear of judgment or that “people will laugh at me” is an invitation to find and align with those who will laugh *with* me. It’s a call for community and connection with trusted allies.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Don’t banish your fears, my friends. Befriend them. See them as a compass propelling you into aligned action and meaningful growth. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Xoxo
A post shared by Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) on Aug 12, 2019 at 11:16am PDT
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I recently experienced a big breakthrough in an important relationship. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I had been holding on to a painful experience from our past, which was creating a cage around my heart. I was unwilling to forgive because I was still hooked in a pattern of shame and blame. Even though the situation had hurt me, I wasn’t taking responsibility for the role I could now play in the story, and I used that narrative to justify my anger and actions. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When this pattern was brought to my attention, I realized that I was holding on because the benefit it gave me was the position of a victim. As a victim, I didn’t have to take responsibility, face the situation, or change. Instead, I could justify my anger and perpetuate a cycle of suffering. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This awareness woke me up and propelled me into creating a new narrative and pattern. It also inspired this pyramid, which illustrates the stages I walked through to transform. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ They are: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Awareness: I realize something isn’t working and needs to change. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Responsibility: I recognize that I am the creator of my reality. While I cannot change the past, I am responsible for and committed to my healing and growth today. I am actively scripting the narrative I choose to let lead my life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Forgiveness: I release shame and blame. I realize that holding on impacts me more than anyone. I let go of what could have been different and wholeheartedly choose compassion and acceptance. I am more committed to my joy than my pain. My heart reopens. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Peace: I no longer hold a charge about the event. I now see how the experience strengthened me and helped me grow. I feel gratitude for my revelations and heightened awareness. I feel safe and at home within myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Joy: I am here, in this moment, fully. I am present to what is. 🥰 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🙏🏼❤️✨
A post shared by Amber Rae (@heyamberrae) on Jul 11, 2019 at 10:04am PDT
